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09 August 2014 | Comments Off on San

Doing a class for the SF Citadel this month! And Herr Meister himself will be there. How cool is THAT??!   “Dominance and Submission: Hot Fiction, Hotter Facts.”   Wednesday, August 27, 2014 · 8:00 PM –10:00 PM Location: SF Citadel 181 Eddy St, San Francisco, CA Cost: $20 at door, $15 in advance- see link…

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Why I’m suspicious of those suspicious of change.

22 July 2014 |

It’s the same mantra and hand wringing every few years. “THEY ARE RUINING THE SCENE!” “It was So. Much. Better in the (insert decade prior to current decade)!” When people bemoan the broader acceptance and cultural destigmatization of BDSM and scoff at the hoi polloi who ruined the glory days, I can’t help but wonder…

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“The most beautiful love story.”

12 June 2014 |

Howdy from Austria. Land of schnitzel & secondhand smoke. It has been quite a stretch of time since I have blogged. Those who are connected to me virtually via Twitter or better yet Facebook have been on the receiving end of snippets and sketches and bits about the past few months. Part of me wants…

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Seven.

14 March 2014 |

Seven years ago today, I was in rehab, on about six different medications to try to keep me alive but sedated so I wouldn’t have seizures. Because roughly 10% of alcoholics who stop drinking cold turkey are killed by brain seizures. I was ashamed and terrified but determined to try to live. I met my…

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e[lust] #55

16 February 2014 | Comments Off on e[lust] #55

Photo courtesy of Sex with Rose Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #56? Start with the…

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Notes from the LoveSac.

05 February 2014 |

listen to ‘Herr Meister and the Earvurms.’ on Audioboo

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e[Lust] Digest #54

16 January 2014 |

Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #55? Start with the rules, come back February 1st to…

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We interrupt this program to bring you a commercial message.

14 January 2014 | Comments Off on We interrupt this program to bring you a commercial message.

I am superfucking picky about reviewing shit, endorsing stuff, reviewing toys, permitting advertising on my site…all that shit. Why? because I’m lazy. Yep. I often do not wanna do the work it takes to vet people, places and things for inclusion on my site. (That’l likely change soon, because I need to monetize this fucker.…

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Permission to be human: granted.

12 January 2014 |

I was more anxious than happy when I received an IM from The Composer. It was the middle of the night for him, and he had responded to one of my e-mails letting me know he was only up for a bit and was going to sleep once he was done working. The anxiety stemmed…

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Pride without prejudice.

07 January 2014 |

Sometimes I don’t realize what I’m missing until I have it. Experiencing The Composer‘s pride & delights in my achievements brought to the fore of my thoughts today the fact that my previous dominants seemed very much to focus on making certain my achievements were put into “proper perspective.” Underscoring that I was no better than…

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December 20th, 2013

Recomposition.

01 January 2014 |

Skidding into the end of a year that was, on balance, more emotionally difficult than not, and rough on my relationships I held dear. Amidst the usual online dating fails, I received a message on December 19th. Respectful with a little bit of zest, acknowledging he was a bit older than I’d initially indicated I…

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e-Lust sexBlogs #52

17 December 2013 | Comments Off on e-Lust sexBlogs #52

Photo courtesy of Kinketc Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #54? Start with the newly updated…

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Dear Mollena…

12 December 2013 |

Dear Mollena… It is tough out here. When you are single, even tougher. You have been trying, with not much success, to be active in your search for a partner. You have heard so many stories and seen so much that dents your already battered heart. I know I am not alone, and I want…

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” 69 saker du vill veta om sex!”

05 December 2013 | Comments Off on ” 69 saker du vill veta om sex!”

When I was in Sweden earlier this year – (and suffering from a MASSIVE middle-ear infection) I was interviewed for a show that would, eventually, air on Swedish TV. Thanks to a sharp-eyed friend over in Sverige (THANK YOU JOHAN!) I just got word that it aired tonight on television and everything!

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CollarMe…WTF.

27 November 2013 |

Aah, online dating. I’ve been registered with online dating sites of all stripes since the fledgling days of my tiptoed explorations into the internet, and have seen many come and go. One of the worst of the BDSM / kink slums is CollarMe.com. My profile there is maintained purely for comic relief and passive gathering of…

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Be “That Guy.”

21 November 2013 | Comments Off on Be “That Guy.”

Some people wonder what they can do when everyone else is following along one path. “I’m just one person.” they insist. “I don’t have the same ‘high-profile you have,” they tell me “nobody will listen to me.” “Yeah, I know that person / presenter / event / group / Munch is slack on shitty behaviour….or…

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Excerpted from “The Admiral’s Slave.”

18 November 2013 | Comments Off on Excerpted from “The Admiral’s Slave.”

From Chapter 2 “Molly.” “Yes, Master.” “You have not been thorough in your duties. Are you quite certain you are done?” “Is there something further you require, Master?” “Yes.” The fire’s brazen shadows played over his face, glittering within his half-closed eyes. He grasped my forearm with his damp hand and pulled me so that…

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e[lust] SexBlog roll-up #52

16 November 2013 | Comments Off on e[lust] SexBlog roll-up #52

Photo courtesy of Secretly Sensuous Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #53? Start with the newly…

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Veteran’s Day, and a thought for my Father.

11 November 2013 | Comments Off on Veteran’s Day, and a thought for my Father.

I don’t often pay much attention to Veteran’s Day except to ponder the horribleness of war. But this morning I realized the most influentiam man of my childhood served in the armed forces..and I don’t even know where he is today. My Father is (was?) a Navy Vet, having served  in Vietnam and surviving the…

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Leather Reign 2013: on silence & service.

09 November 2013 |

I was invited to one of my favourite Leather events last year, and was happy to say yes. I respect the way the folks at Leather Reign do business, and I salute the honor they did me in inviting me to speak to their guests.  When they invited me to speak at their dinner, I…

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Seven (Random) Suggestions for Submissive/Slave Types!

01 November 2013 |

There is no one rulebook for how to do this thing we call BDSM, Power-Exchange, Master/Slave relationships, etc., etc. One of the things I most enjoy about perverts is our limitless capacity to forge our own damn path, thank you very much! I’ve done a lot of weed-whacking through the jungles of kink in order…

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my voice.

26 October 2013 | Comments Off on my voice.

I was listening, the other day, to Dorothy Allison talk about truth, fiction, and making your own genres. I realized just now that the core reason I have been stuck with so much of the stuff I have to say is that I need Bigger Ideas and Stranger Canvasses than one normally sees in order…

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Ending-in-O in Chicago & Toronto, yo!

23 October 2013 | Comments Off on Ending-in-O in Chicago & Toronto, yo!

I’ll be hitting Chicago & Toronto, and debuting a new class to boot! So what’s that all aboot? Glad ya asked! I have a FREE class in Chicago, Three classes at Come As You Are in Toronto and I’m s-q-u-e-e-z-i-n-g in two additional class sessions, one of which is a world premier! Get in on…

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Oi! I made top three in e-[lust] #51

16 October 2013 | Comments Off on Oi! I made top three in e-[lust] #51

Photo courtesy of Property of Potter Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #52? Start with the…

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Seven (Random) Suggestions for Dominant Types!

07 October 2013 |

There is no one rulebook for how to do this thing we call BDSM, Power-Exchange, Master/Slave relationships, etc., etc. One of the things I most enjoy about perverts is our limitless capacity to forge our own damn path, thank you very much! I’ve done a lot of weed-whacking through the jungles of kink in order…

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