21 January 2013 |

I could count on one hand the number of times he kissed me throughout the entirety of our relationship on one hand and still have fingers to spare to cock and trigger an imaginary gun and I wondered if this was because he didn’t think I was worthy of kissing The first kiss was the…

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Another voice.

20 January 2013 |

I don’t often feel someone else grab my insides and says “No, THIS is how you feel.” I am adept at expressing myself. Except lately, that hasn’t been the case. There are many factors, but the three I’ve been able to isolate are fear, anxiety and loneliness. The fear hit me in the face when…

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An afternoon with Adam.

07 January 2013 |

This is me and my friend, Adam. We have known one another since first grade. And through a bizarre and hilarious series of coincidences, his kinky wife met a mutual photographer friend and one thing led to another and his passing thought, years ago, about the two of us doing a photo shoot wound up…

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...I got this.

No short-sell.

02 January 2013 |

I have no resolutions. This isn’t as weirdly hopeless as it might sound. I’ve spent the past few weeks fretting on one account or another. Some of it is fretting over what choices I “should” be making, what things I “should” be doing, and judging my own life and progress against that of others around…

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Charming, Charlie!

19 December 2012 | Comments Off on Charming, Charlie!
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Perving in Boston, December 16th!

08 December 2012 | Comments Off on Perving in Boston, December 16th!

I will be up in Massachusetts, y’all! on Sunday, December 16th, I’ll be doing not one but TWO classes in Boston! Well, technically Brookline and Somerville but whatever. I still can’t get the hang of the geography there, and the *&^%$ lack of communicative street signs doesn’t help… …but I digress ;-D 2:00pm “Role Playing: Using Your Head to get…

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London calling. (Or, why every motherfucking submissive / slave needs to get on the other side of the slash. Now.)

30 November 2012 |

  So I’m in London, studying with Barbara Carellas. We did an exercise today in her Urban Tantra class that put me for the first time in a d/s headspace as the dominant. It was a pretty simple rope thing with blindfolds. Simple, of course, until you actually started doing it. I was filled with…

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Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2012!

20 November 2012 |

Yay! 1. Molly from Molly’s Daily Kiss @mollysdailykiss 2. EA from Easily Aroused @EasilyAroused 3. Hyacinth Jones from A Dissolute Life Means… 4. Cheeky Minx from Love Hate Sex Cake @LoveHateSexCake 5. Amy from Anal Amy @AnalAmy 6. My Trousers Rolled from My Trousers Rolled @rolledtrousers 7. Sexual Life of a Wife from Sexual Life…

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Patrick Mulcahey: “Learning About Learning”

20 November 2012 | Comments Off on Patrick Mulcahey: “Learning About Learning”

A Most Excellent keynote from Patrick Mulcahey. One of my most heroic heroes.        LEARNING ABOUT LEARNING Good evening. It’s a pleasure and an honor to speak with you tonight. A little over two years ago, I heard a rumor that shocked me: the San Francisco Leathermen’s Discussion Group was about to fold. LDG,…

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Beat Your Meat for Turkey Day.

19 November 2012 | Comments Off on Beat Your Meat for Turkey Day.

I love Thanksgiving mostly because it means I can post this awesome Count Boogie video.   Again.

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29 October 2012 | Comments Off on OMG THE BOOK IS ON SALE FOR [REDACTED]

  We have NO IDEA how long this’ll be the case or if this is even correct but Playing Well With Others is in Kindle format on Amazon and is…well.   Its cheap.   Grab it while ya can! Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Navigating and Exploring the Kink, Leather and…

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19 October 2012 | Comments Off on PRESS RELEASE: WHISTLE STOP TOUR 2012 with LEE HARRINGTON & MOLLENA is a GO!

NEW YORK, NY – FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE, OCTOBER 18TH, 2012: In conjunction with their eagerly awaited, groundbreaking book PLAYING WELL WITH OTHERS: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities, Lee Harrington and Mollena are embarking on a cross-country Whistle-Stop tour from October 24th through November 17th, taking their…

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19 October 2012 |

This past few weeks has been NUTS, yo. Travel insanity, and despite the fact I tried really hard to leave time to relax, it wound up being mostly about dental nightmares and unpleasant financial news. And woven in amidst the whirlwind of planning for the amazing tour that Lee Harrington and I are doing in support of the release…

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The Whistle Stop Tour is a-comin’!

10 October 2012 | Comments Off on The Whistle Stop Tour is a-comin’!

The “Playing Well With Others” tour is creeping up on ya!  HELP US AFFORD TO TOUR… and get your own signed copies of books, “Wanna Do Some Stuff” cards, and so much more! Pre-Tour Appearances! Sunday October 21st : Brookline, MA :  Mollena teaches for MOB New England. Tuesday, October 23rd, Sommerville, MA: Up-Close & Yummy: an intimate class…

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05 October 2012 |

KNOW YOUR NEGROS III: Advanced Edition. Yep, it is true…there aren’t all THAT many brown faces in the Kink / Leather world. But hey, we are working on it. Interestingly, though there aren’t that many of us we are mistaken for one another….er…a lot, actually. Embarrassingly so. So I tried to help by posting PSAs. But now……

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Kink the Vote!

27 September 2012 | Comments Off on Kink the Vote!

Who says dogs get to have all of the fun? When I saw this for sale on the Obama for America store, I was sorely tempted. When I found a discount code (type in “YOUNGAMERICANS” for 25% off!) I went for it. I’ll be collared to the President and barkin’ for Barack.  Last week while…

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Safewords are for pussies.

25 September 2012 | Comments Off on Safewords are for pussies.

No, really.

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4:47 AM

21 September 2012 |

A timid hand touches me where few ever touch… Hello…hello? Do you have a moment? I turn away, my heart excruciating squeeze of pain so long-present it has to find new ways to make its presence felt at every turn. I am sorry to bother you. I know we are busy but I am having…

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16 September 2012 |

IMPACT. a short film. World Premier: Yerba Buena Center for the Arts ASKEW Film Festival. Conceived, Directed by and starring Mollena Williams Aeric Meredith-Goujon ~ Assistant Director, Camera, Editing Featuring: Laura Antoniou Nayland Blake Lee Harrington Sinclair Sexsmith  Lolita Wolf Special Thanks to Madison Young, the Yerba Buena Center for the Arts,  Laura Antoniou and Karen Taylor  

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e[Lust] #40

16 September 2012 | Comments Off on e[Lust] #40

Photo courtesy of @iSlut_ of A Slut’s Memoir Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #41? Start…

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I’ve got sunshine on a cloudy day.

06 September 2012 |

Sometimes I stop and take stock and crack myself up. I’m living my life from the inside so I don’t often think about the reality of how amazing it is, really. So this morning when I said to my roomate / Evil Landlady (who happens to be internationally known author and speaker Laura Antoniou) and…

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The 2012 “PLAYING WELL WITH OTHERS” Whistle Stop Tour!

04 September 2012 | Comments Off on The 2012 “PLAYING WELL WITH OTHERS” Whistle Stop Tour!  After a few years in the making, “Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities” is out!  To celebrate, we have planned an ambitious book tour: 16 cities in 21 days! We will be traversing the USA (and Vancouver) by train (and a few legs…

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Goodbye, Wedge.

28 August 2012 |

I found out last week that my one remaining cat, Wedge, was sick. But I guess i can’t call him mine because I’d tried to find him a home before i left California so that his life would be more stable. As I found out last week, his life wasn’t all that stable after all. He had…

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I know I’m not the only pervert…

27 August 2012 |

…who would find this super hot. ‎I, for one, would be SO TURNED ON if someone said that to me after shagging my brain into next week that they’d have to eat their Wheaties and prepare for round two.

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My Demon is on NPR.

25 August 2012 | Comments Off on My Demon is on NPR.

As a storyteller, there are several landmarks ya hit when telling that resonate. The first time with a big audience. That first time revealing something you’ve never told. The first time you perform at a national event. I’d hit all but two of my storytelling goals (at that time) when I received an e-mail from one of…

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