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FINAL FETFEST FINALITY!!

24 August 2012 | Comments Off on FINAL FETFEST FINALITY!!

You have until MIDNIGHT TONIGHT…August 24th…to get in under the registration deadline!  Then you’re Shit Outta Luck!  And if you buy it and you use code “MOLLENA” you get an extra 10% off, you get to go to an awesome event, and maybe…just maybe…. you’ll see me running around dressed like a pony. So what the fuck…

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How You Know You Are On The Rag.

22 August 2012 |

1) Experience Violent chocolate pudding craving. 2) Go on midnight pudding run in strange town. 3) Discover there is no pre-made pudding. 4) Buy milk, pudding mix & Lactaid pills so you can eat whole milk. 4A)…because FUCK SOY MILK I AM TIRED OF NOT HAVING THE REAL STUFF YOU BASTARD COLON!!

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Boba FettLife!

20 August 2012 | Comments Off on Boba FettLife!

One of the awesome “Rules if the Internet” is Rule 34: If it exists, there is porn of it. A friend on Facebook, upon seeing me mention Fetlife, mentioned that he thought I was, of course, referring to Boba Fett. I could not resist seeing if the legendary bounty hunter was the source of any…

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e[Lust] #39 … (Yay! I’m in the top three!)

17 August 2012 | Comments Off on e[Lust] #39 … (Yay! I’m in the top three!)

Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #40? Start with the newly updated rules, come back September…

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This is today. Tomorrow will, I’m sure, be different.

16 August 2012 |

There isn’t much grace or dignity in pouring out one’s guts all over the damn internet. I’m protective of my rough spots, mostly because I loathe the idea of The Haters smirking smugly at my difficulty. And also because it is pretty easy to look at someone’s life from the outside and assume they’re doing…

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Big Ups to TT and missed Qs!

10 August 2012 | Comments Off on Big Ups to TT and missed Qs!

I just spent an amaaaazing hour speaking with the lovely and talented Tristan Taormino! What a rush…sometimes, life becomes awesome and you get to talk with people who have motivated and inspired you in your own journey towards self-actualization. I’m tickled plum that I can be where I am today and talk with Tristan! Listen to the…

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CROSSPOST: CaptainAwkward gets real on sexual abuse.

09 August 2012 | Comments Off on CROSSPOST: CaptainAwkward gets real on sexual abuse.

This is a cross-post from a truly amazing blog. And it is vitally important for everyone to read it. It is especially important for those of us in the BDSM / Leather / Kink / AltSex communities to listen. Closely.   CaptainAwkward.com Advice. Staircase Wit. Faux Pas. Movies. #322 & #323 “My friend group has a…

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Pardon the wonk!

08 August 2012 | Comments Off on Pardon the wonk!

Thing’s will be a bit wonky for a little while as my site is being awesomeified! Here’s my travel & appearances calendar, in case you need to know when I’ll be in your town!  Please take a look at the book hitting your eyeballs in September: Playing Well with Others, the amazing book Lee Harrington and I wroted!…

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Would you crawl for Khan?

07 August 2012 | Comments Off on Would you crawl for Khan?

Don’t you even try to tell me Gene L. Coon wasn’t a freaking pervert. To this day this makes me so hot.

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I’m-a be all up in Tristan Taormino’s “Sex Out Loud!”

07 August 2012 | Comments Off on I’m-a be all up in Tristan Taormino’s “Sex Out Loud!”

Woot! I am super stoked to be on the amazing Tristan Taormino’s new show, Sex Out Loud! Tune on this Friday evening! Time zones listed below! From Tristan Taormino’s Site Mollena Williams – our guest for our Friday August 1oth episode of Sex Out Loud – is simply one of the most intelligent and articulate BDSM educators…

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WARNING: Fat girl tied up!

03 August 2012 |

Yeah there’s lots of yelling back and forth about body image. I get tired of yelling at the people going on about “Real women” this and that when they mean “women who don’t look like photoshopped models” or “anyone but a woman we have arbitrarily labeled a skinny bitch.” In the kink community, slender Caucasian women are still the gold standard…

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FetFest, yo!

31 July 2012 | Comments Off on FetFest, yo!

You have until MIDNIGHT TONIGHT…August 31st…to get the last of the regular registration tickets!  Then the price jumps!  And if you buy it today, and you use code “MOLLENA” you get an extra 10% off, you get to go to an awesome event, and maybe…just maybe…. you’ll see me running around dressed like a pony. So what…

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Collars & closure & owning myself.

27 July 2012 |

Winner of the National Leather Association International 2012 Cynthia Slater Non-Fiction Award ________________________________________________________ It took six months to meet up with The Dominant Guy and do the stuff that really needed to happen in order for me to close out that account. Yep, I know that “closure” is something that is elusive, somewhat mythic, and…

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Reality. Bites.

20 July 2012 | Comments Off on Reality. Bites.

I had an inglorious day yesterday…a harried time at the airport, a plane change for what I really wished was a non-stop, and when I was finally able to rest I woke up covered in bites and an itchy mess thanks to some very small vampiric bedmates. SO, today I’m popping Benadryl non-stop to offset…

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Kink & Art & Video! Wanna help?

05 July 2012 | Comments Off on Kink & Art & Video! Wanna help?

I received an email from the delightful Madison Young –  multi-talented, hot, and the only person who I’ve recognized based just on a photo of their delightfully presented pussy. But I digress. Anyhoo, she messaged me with a proposal to do an art piece on the invisibility of the sexuality of women of color and…

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Pssst Are you a reviewer? Want a free book?

03 July 2012 |

I have two essays in this wonderful book! I’m cross-posting a pretty cool offer from the Editor, Ms, Taormino. Continue reading to find out how you can get a free copy of the book in exchange for a book review! Seeking Kinky Book Reviewers: by Tristan Taormino I am really, really proud of my latest…

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Five Days of Gatewood, Day Five: Watch those teeth. (NSFW)

29 June 2012 |

One of the first things I learned about putting people’s junk in your face was: watch the teeth. And that’s pretty much true for most people. Some people, however, love the teeth. in this case, due to my extra perky canines and concerns about violating the integrity of the prophylactic, I avoided any vigorous biteyness. But I…

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Five Days of Gatewood, Day Four: going down. (NSFW)

28 June 2012 | Comments Off on Five Days of Gatewood, Day Four: going down. (NSFW)

YeahOKSo…there it is. I haven’t much experience with doing sex only because you’re gonna be photographing it, so I might have been nervous except I wasn’t all that nervous. I was glad I thought to bring condoms, but unfortunately, these were lubricated. Upside? the lube wasn’t of a particularly janky flavor. I did wonder if I’d look…

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Five Days of Gatewood, Day 3: Clean shave. (NSFW)

27 June 2012 | Comments Off on Five Days of Gatewood, Day 3: Clean shave. (NSFW)

I did as thorough I job as I could with the shaving. The inexpensive disposable razors are not optimal for getting too close without mircocuts but no serious exsanguination occurred. I took care to keep everything clean…shaving foam helped.   By the time I was done shaving, that moment of “UM, OK, so next is supposed to…

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Porchlight Storytelling 10th Anniversary, Friday July 13th

26 June 2012 |

I know, San Francisco, it sucks that I’m leaving. But fear not, I’ll be back for a victory lap! Come see me at Porchlight on Friday July 13th!

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Five Days of Gatewood, Day 2: Shaving. (NSFW)

26 June 2012 |

“What I really like is being shaved…” I assumed he didn’t mean he enjoyed help with his chin stubble. I haven’t done an interactive photo shoot, and I haven’t done anything that was exceedingly explicit. But hey, what the fuck. I was 9 days away from 43 years old and adding another skeleton to my jammed-like-Mecca-during-Hajj closet…

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Five days of Gatewood: Day 1: Oracle.

25 June 2012 |

I did a shoot with legendary photographer Charles Gatewood a couple of weeks ago. When we were discussing what he was working on, one of the projects on his table involved more explicit stuff than I’ve done before. And I thought about it quite thoroughly. I wondered how I would feel about having photos of…

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One show closes, the road show begins.

22 June 2012 | Comments Off on One show closes, the road show begins.

Two more nights of the critically-acclaimed Crowded Fire production of “Good Goods,” and then my Crowded Fire retirement party and then a kiss and a prayer and then I’m back home to New York. Take a break, you say? OK, sure. For like, two weeks. Kinda. Then I will be hopping around a bit! Here’s…

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A Solstice Birthday. With titties.

20 June 2012 |

Today I’m 43. I feel pretty good about that. Most days I feel like a little kid in an aging Grup suit, and I kind of dig that sensation. Since my last Solar Return, a lot has happened. I have traveled a lot. Learned so much. Performed in stages across the country. Made new friends,…

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KPFA! Today!

18 June 2012 | Comments Off on KPFA! Today!

LISTEN LIVE 1:00 PM PDT JUNE 18TH 2012 FOR MY INTERVIEW WITH ERYN MATHEWSON! Women’s Magazine Airing on Mondays, from 1-2pm Pacific Time   The Women’s Magazine is an hour long radio program that airs on KPFA radio that presents and discusses women’s lives and issues globally and locally from a radical multiracial feminist/mujerist/womanist perspective. We bring women’s issues, lives, culture, music, struggles…

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