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Two more nights of the critically-acclaimed Crowded Fire production of “Good Goods,” and then my Crowded Fire retirement party and then a kiss and a prayer and then I’m back home to New York. Take a break, you say? OK, sure. For like, two weeks. Kinda. Then I will be hopping around a bit! Here’s…

Today I’m 43. I feel pretty good about that. Most days I feel like a little kid in an aging Grup suit, and I kind of dig that sensation. Since my last Solar Return, a lot has happened. I have traveled a lot. Learned so much. Performed in stages across the country. Made new friends,…

Not only is the animation delightful, the fact that the fat lady is portrayed as sexy and desirable made my fat ass so very happy. You don’t often get to see a sexy fat lady in cartoons. Here’s one. And I love it.   &npsp;

The new thing at my freelance writing gig is for us to be assigned “themes” around which we have to base our columns. Sometimes I’m left baffled, and this week wasn’t any better. “Hands” was the assignment, and I’d entirely forgotten about pretty much everything in the wake of the passing of my friend and…

We last exchanged messages on Facebook on May 13th. We’d kept in touch over the years, the years after we broke up in 2006. Our relationship had had an odd beginning, and rumbled along, in fits and starts, until we finally wound up spending almost 3 pretty good years together. Our relationship ended when it…

Sunday, June 17, 2012 6:00 PM –8:00 PM Center for Sex and Culture 1349 Mission Street, San Francisco Doors open at 5:00 pm $5 for Janus members and reciprocal organizations, $15 all others Please note: you do not need to be a member to attend. Janus programs are open to all attendees 18 years of…

“Why?” is a question I ask often. I was a really annoying kid, I’m sure, for this reason. And I have a phalanx of brainhamsters I employ to run these querulous subroutines when I find myself doing shit that I don’t quite understand.   Sometimes the answer is less than satisfactory in light of my…

…but now I want one! And it’s all Keith’s fault.   Seriously how badass is that?!? Now all I need is some Cthulhu porn and a date with this guy and I’m all set!

For years I’ve had elaborate explanations for what the differences are between the terms / titles “owner” and “master” since it seems people often use them interchangeably. And when I asked people why they chose one over the other, some answers were personal, others rambling, some generated more questions than answers. I hit upon an…

When my work is what I love to do, I can feel like a bit of a whiner when I realize I’m drained.  How could I possibly feel overwhelmed when I’m doing exactly what I love? When even today I cracked open and kicked the shit outta the sticking point of the next theater project…

Some of you know, but most do not, how difficult it is to be a presenter in the “Alt Sex” community. Folks see me running all over the USA, Canada and Europe and assume I must be making lots of money. Well…no. Most conferences don’t pay speakers. Some will at least cover a hotel room…

Someone wrote an article about having herpes. While I am glad that the discussion is happening, the opening paragraph bugged me. Upon re-reading this article, something that nagged at me nagged me further. The author opens with “We were naked. He was hard. I’d always considered this moment the best time to disclose, because rejection…

I walked out of the Planned Parenthood office armed with a bag containing several dozen condoms, six months’ worth of Progestogen only birth control pills, a small bottle of lube and a package containing some pulls commonly known as “Plan B.” Those last I was provided “just in case’ and I was carefully instructed on how…

“You will be my date at a private party, and sleeping over that night.” While I had been previously asked about my availability for Friday evening, his follow-up text message caught me a bit by surprise. Usually, when making plans,  people ask me what I’d like to do, or offer suggestions for what we might…