Five Days of Gatewood, Day 3: Clean shave. (NSFW)

27 June 2012 | Comments Off on Five Days of Gatewood, Day 3: Clean shave. (NSFW)

I did as thorough I job as I could with the shaving. The inexpensive disposable razors are not optimal for getting too close without mircocuts but no serious exsanguination occurred. I took care to keep everything clean…shaving foam helped.   By the time I was done shaving, that moment of “UM, OK, so next is supposed to…

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Porchlight Storytelling 10th Anniversary, Friday July 13th

26 June 2012 |

I know, San Francisco, it sucks that I’m leaving. But fear not, I’ll be back for a victory lap! Come see me at Porchlight on Friday July 13th!

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Five Days of Gatewood, Day 2: Shaving. (NSFW)

26 June 2012 |

“What I really like is being shaved…” I assumed he didn’t mean he enjoyed help with his chin stubble. I haven’t done an interactive photo shoot, and I haven’t done anything that was exceedingly explicit. But hey, what the fuck. I was 9 days away from 43 years old and adding another skeleton to my jammed-like-Mecca-during-Hajj closet…

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Five days of Gatewood: Day 1: Oracle.

25 June 2012 |

I did a shoot with legendary photographer Charles Gatewood a couple of weeks ago. When we were discussing what he was working on, one of the projects on his table involved more explicit stuff than I’ve done before. And I thought about it quite thoroughly. I wondered how I would feel about having photos of…

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One show closes, the road show begins.

22 June 2012 | Comments Off on One show closes, the road show begins.

Two more nights of the critically-acclaimed Crowded Fire production of “Good Goods,” and then my Crowded Fire retirement party and then a kiss and a prayer and then I’m back home to New York. Take a break, you say? OK, sure. For like, two weeks. Kinda. Then I will be hopping around a bit! Here’s…

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A Solstice Birthday. With titties.

20 June 2012 |

Today I’m 43. I feel pretty good about that. Most days I feel like a little kid in an aging Grup suit, and I kind of dig that sensation. Since my last Solar Return, a lot has happened. I have traveled a lot. Learned so much. Performed in stages across the country. Made new friends,…

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KPFA! Today!

18 June 2012 | Comments Off on KPFA! Today!

LISTEN LIVE 1:00 PM PDT JUNE 18TH 2012 FOR MY INTERVIEW WITH ERYN MATHEWSON! Women’s Magazine Airing on Mondays, from 1-2pm Pacific Time   The Women’s Magazine is an hour long radio program that airs on KPFA radio that presents and discusses women’s lives and issues globally and locally from a radical multiracial feminist/mujerist/womanist perspective. We bring women’s issues, lives, culture, music, struggles…

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“Love Recipe:” a story where the fat lady is sexy.

13 June 2012 |

Not only is the animation delightful, the fact that the fat lady is portrayed as sexy and desirable made my fat ass so very happy. You don’t often get to see a sexy fat lady in cartoons. Here’s one. And I love it.   &npsp;

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The Shout, June 11th!

11 June 2012 | Comments Off on The Shout, June 11th!

Last month I told a story at The Shout. I love telling stories, and I love the founders of the feast, Rami & Cassidy, so it was awesome. You can listen to it here I’ll be back tomorrow, Monday June 11th,  to tell a story. In honour of Father’s Day, this one will be about…

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The SF Citadel FINALLY has a new home!

09 June 2012 | Comments Off on The SF Citadel FINALLY has a new home!

SF Citadel….. We’re Back ! by AugustKnight  about 23 hours ago Dear Friends, We are so excited to announce we have a new space! And, we are a non-profit! The new SF Citadel Community Center Inc., is now a 501c-3 educational non profit. Paperwork is filed, bank accounts are open and we now can accept tax-deductible donations.…

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New on Sexis…old memories at my fingertips.

08 June 2012 | Comments Off on New on Sexis…old memories at my fingertips.

The new thing at my freelance writing gig is for us to be assigned “themes” around which we have to base our columns. Sometimes I’m left baffled, and this week wasn’t any better. “Hands” was the assignment, and I’d entirely forgotten about pretty much everything in the wake of the passing of my friend and…

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Goodbye, Pizza Guy.

04 June 2012 |

We last exchanged messages on Facebook on May 13th. We’d kept in touch over the years, the years after we broke up in 2006. Our relationship had had an odd beginning, and rumbled along, in fits and starts, until we finally wound up spending almost 3 pretty good years together. Our relationship ended when it…

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Get self-ish in SF!

01 June 2012 | Comments Off on Get self-ish in SF!

Sunday, June 17, 2012 6:00 PM –8:00 PM Center for Sex and Culture 1349 Mission Street, San Francisco Doors open at 5:00 pm $5 for Janus members and reciprocal organizations, $15 all others Please note: you do not need to be a member to attend. Janus programs are open to all attendees 18 years of…

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Thank you for saving my life.

31 May 2012 |

“Why?” is a question I ask often. I was a really annoying kid, I’m sure, for this reason. And I have a phalanx of brainhamsters I employ to run these querulous subroutines when I find myself doing shit that I don’t quite understand.   Sometimes the answer is less than satisfactory in light of my…

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Expertise ≠ Invincibility.

29 May 2012 | Comments Off on Expertise ≠ Invincibility.

Some sad and fucked up news hit my screen this afternoon. A rather well-known member of the Fetish community, the guy who owned and operated Kink Engineering passed away as a result of an accident while playing alone. I absolutely cannot imagine what this is like for his partner, his close friends and family. And…

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No I do not NEED a squid-shaped dildo…

25 May 2012 |

…but now I want one! And it’s all Keith’s fault.   Seriously how badass is that?!? Now all I need is some Cthulhu porn and a date with this guy and I’m all set!

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A master, an owner, a continuum…?

21 May 2012 | Comments Off on A master, an owner, a continuum…?

For years I’ve had elaborate explanations for what the differences are between the terms / titles “owner” and “master” since it seems people often use them interchangeably. And when I asked people why they chose one over the other, some answers were personal, others rambling, some generated more questions than answers. I hit upon an…

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All work and all plays.

21 May 2012 |

When my work is what I love to do, I can feel like a bit of a whiner when I realize I’m drained.  How could I possibly feel overwhelmed when I’m doing exactly what I love? When even today I cracked open and kicked the shit outta the sticking point of the next theater project…

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Mother’s Day Flashback! “See, Mom, It’s Like This…”

13 May 2012 | Comments Off on Mother’s Day Flashback! “See, Mom, It’s Like This…”

Just got off of the phone with my Mom, and listened as she opened the package that has been sitting and silently holding the little secret gift I’d ordered weeks ago, so that I wouldn’t forget. She seemed to really like the gift: 4 little hand-crafted silver pendants with the initial of each of her…

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NLA Award!

08 May 2012 |

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE WINNERS ANNOUNCED FOR NLA-I WRITING AWARDS  (Columbus, OH) — National Leather Association: International, a leading organization for activists in the pansexual SM/leather community, announced the winners, for works published in 2011, of its annual awards for excellence in SM/leather/fetish writing at its Annual General Meeting at Tribal Fire in OklahomaCity, OK on May 6, 2012.…

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Why you should pay me.

08 May 2012 |

Some of you know, but most do not, how difficult it is to be a presenter in the “Alt Sex” community. Folks see me running all over the USA, Canada and Europe and assume I must be making lots of money. Well…no. Most conferences don’t pay speakers. Some will at least cover a hotel room…

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Catch me if you can.

06 May 2012 | Comments Off on Catch me if you can.

Next week is fucking nuts.   I am kind of settling into being back in the Bay. Getting used to being in the East bay, and trying to not feel like I’m drowning. Mostly I am succeeding. Some days it is all I can do to get up before I absolutely HAVE to, because I…

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When do you tell?

01 May 2012 |

Someone wrote an article about having herpes. While I am glad that the discussion is happening, the opening paragraph bugged me. Upon re-reading this article, something that nagged at me nagged me further. The author opens with “We were naked. He was hard. I’d always considered this moment the best time to disclose, because rejection…

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Play Collar.

26 April 2012 |

I walked out of the Planned Parenthood office armed with a bag containing several dozen condoms, six months’ worth of Progestogen only birth control pills, a small bottle of lube and a package containing some pulls commonly known as “Plan B.” Those last I was provided “just in case’ and I was carefully instructed on how…

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Sunday, April 22, 2012.

22 April 2012 |

“You will be my date at a private party, and sleeping over that night.” While I had been previously asked about my availability for Friday evening, his follow-up text message caught me a bit by surprise. Usually, when making plans,  people ask me what I’d like to do, or offer suggestions for what we might…

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