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Dropping in to London!

01 May 2013 |

I am on my way over to Europe for the Stockholm Fetish Week and I will be popping over to London to see what kinky mischief I can make! I will be at the Sh! Women’s Store on May 15th, 16th & 17th teaching three classes and would love to see you there! There will…

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Sinful Sunday: Oracle’s crop.

28 April 2013 |

I was able to attend the International Ms Leather contest last week and for the main event, I did myself up in my pony garb. I am still getting used to showing up places in that character, and it took me quite a while to get comfortable with that facet of my kink. I am…

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TheGrio tackles “Race Play…” rather well, actually!

23 April 2013 | Comments Off on TheGrio tackles “Race Play…” rather well, actually!

I was contacted recently by award-winning journalist Alexis Stodghill, writing from an MSNBC e-mail address and on the staff of TheGrio.com. She asked me if I’d be interested in answering a few questions about BDSM, specifically race play, since I’d been quoted in a column that is getting a whole lot of talk and that touches on that topic. The column, a response…

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Small Pool Problems.

14 April 2013 | Comments Off on Small Pool Problems.

In the midst of some pretty intense discussion of d/s and M/S stuff, a friend asked – Her: So, who IS TheDominantGuy, really? Me: His actual fake name is [REDACTED] Her: OhMyGod I met him at ___ a few years back! [Insert titillating recounting of a fairly standard smoking hot TheDominantGuy breathless encounter] He’s really hot… Me:I wouldn’t…

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The Master’s Voice.

12 April 2013 |

In the midst of listening to my friend Midori conduct her most excellent class on “Aural Sex,” I had an epiphany and a small heartbreak. This is awkward when one is trying to simply listen and learn and absorb the teachings flowing through the moment. While she was describing how one might use the voice…

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“Race Play:” hitting the mainstream media…?

11 April 2013 |

As a result of the fallout from Abiola Abrams most excellent column that dealt with non-consensual race play – in which I was quoted – I was contacted by The Grio, which is a pretty big deal news outlet geared towards African-Americans.  Or Blacks. Whichever you prefer. I’m all for brevity and I like saying “BLACK!” so I opt…

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Look, Mom! I got quoted in Essence!

08 April 2013 |

I am sure my Mother will be tickled. We used to love reading Essence. As a kid, it was amazing to see a magazine that was for Black people that had Black models looking beautiful and talked about our lives. All-around Sensuality Guru Abiola Abrams does a column for them,(which is, apparently, cross-syndicated to Huffington Post!) and she quoted…

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Masters & Slaves & Love ~ Part One: Patrick Mulcahey’s Thoughts.

26 March 2013 |

One of my friends who is also, secretly, someone I adore without boundary is Patrick Mulcahey. Not only is he one of the most thoughtful people I’ve ever met on pretty much any topic involving Leather and BDSM, he’s also someone who walks the walk and talks the talk and steps up to the plate on many issues that…

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Oooooo, Necomimi!

16 March 2013 |

SO, yeah. I have wanted these Necomimi brainwave-influenced ears (I know. Shut UP!)  for a long while now but boy were they expensive for a fun toy. Then the Evil Wicked folks from The Violet Wand Store are here at Beat Me in Saint Louis, and they were HALF as much as they were last time I…

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Six Years Walking Sober.

14 March 2013 |

Today, it has been six years and a day since I took my last drink. If you’re on FetLife, you can join today’s event if you’d like, and share in the virtual party :-D   It is an amazing walk thus far…bumps and bruises and loss and so many beautiful lessons I have learned. Most wonderfully, I…

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What You See Is NOT What You Get: or Why You Really Don’t See Me.

08 March 2013 |

I love presenting on kink, teaching classes, and leading discussions. But not every day is me striding in there all “YEAH LET’S DO THIS!!” Some days, it is tough. And I feel shaky and not confident. One of the “tricks” I use when I am feeling insanely shy, my self-esteem is circling the drain or…

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Use me.

06 March 2013 | Comments Off on Use me.

One of the most precious gifts I have received from the BDSM, Kink and Leather Confederations is, in fact, a double-edged sword. And that is freedom to be who I am. The thing is? It kind of helps if you know who the fuck you are before you go exercising that freedom. It also helps…

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I Am Featured in the New York Times.

05 March 2013 |

My short, IMPACT, was selected to be a part of the opening night gala for the 10th Annual CineKink Festival! It was AWESOME to see it on the big screen again, and so fabulous to have Karen Taylor and Laura Antoniou and Lolita Wolf and Kelly Shibari all packed into the booth laughing and loving…

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National Public Radio, Snap Judgement & Me!

05 March 2013 | Comments Off on National Public Radio, Snap Judgement & Me!

I grew up listening to NPR as a kid. I have always been a fan and a contributor, even if it is just a few dollars during lean times. I have immense respect for radio by and for the people, sans massive corporate oversight. When Glynn Washington’s show Snap Judgement first hit, I wistfully wished I could,…

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L@@k who is smiling in the New York Times!

27 February 2013 | Comments Off on L@@k who is smiling in the New York Times!

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Service. Every Day.

21 February 2013 |

My memory is, on a good day, unreliable. On a bad day, it is achingly evocative, stunningly accurate, and capable of processing, it seems, every moment in my life in one breathtaking, eviscerating Technicolor swoop at the most inopportune moments. And the trains-of-thought it pulls…well. Seemingly random and yet cripplingly logical, I can go from…

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VD 2013…same old song.

14 February 2013 |

VD. Blah blah, buckets of haterade. I AM bitter and single on VD. Again. I have spent more of them single than not. And the ones where I WAS partnered, the pressure made ’em miserable. My friend, the awesome Laura Antoniou, has a rather compelling essay on why she’s not a fan… check it out here. I was…

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On Racism, entertainment, and race-play.

09 February 2013 |

Part one: http://www.mollena.com/2013/02/blackface-still-racist-yall Part Two http://www.mollena.com/2013/02/racism-in-leather Many people continue to defend the racism of a white male drag-queen donning blackface as “humor” and insist that we ignore it if we don’t like it. Many people feel free to tell me how to react to racism, even as I stand and see people I considered friends and allies…

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Speaking out against racism in Leather.

06 February 2013 |

If you’re just catching up on the issue of the Portland Eagle Blackface Problem, please read my original post here. (Thanks to  Sprinkles McGillicuddy for making a captioned version available!) Some people have stepped up to the place and stepped up as allies. Being an ally means fighting alongside. It is about taking a stand, in front…

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NEWSFLASH!! Blackface: still racist, y’all.

01 February 2013 |

This is in response to the horrifying choice of the Portland Eagle to book Chuck Knipp, a racist who tucks his bigotry and sexism into the alter-ego “Shirley Q. Liquor,” who is a slanderous caricature of Black women. Here is a clip of this racist BS. The Eagle posted the announcement on Facebook. There were…

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Gimmie a call tonight!

24 January 2013 | Comments Off on Gimmie a call tonight!

The BlogTalk Radio gods were unkind last week, and Rebekah and I  managed to only get in about 20 minutes of chat altogether! SO! I’m back on tonight, with Rebekah Beneteau! Show starts at 8:30 EST! http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askmeanythingloveandsexshow/2013/01/25/powerful-submission-w-mollena-taketwo-1 You can call in Call in to speak with us at (347) 838-8931

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Here comes the Summit!

23 January 2013 |

 I am so fucking stoked, you guys!  I have  for years wanted to  make a space for teaching, learning, peer-sharing and togetherness for submissive and slave types, and it is starting to happen! Thanks to Rebekah Beneteau of Wise Wild Feminine, we have a date for the Northeast! Submissive & Slave Identified or curious? You might wish to hold…

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On “Arrogance.”

23 January 2013 |

It seems that being assertive about your self-worth = arrogance to some. Lashing back at me in that way just proves my point: you don’t think I’m worth it. Newsflash: I do. And I am. In my work, in my relationships, in my life. I’ve had the following lobbed at me: Diva*. Arrogant. Presumptuous. Pushy.…

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Three.

21 January 2013 |

I could count on one hand the number of times he kissed me throughout the entirety of our relationship on one hand and still have fingers to spare to cock and trigger an imaginary gun and I wondered if this was because he didn’t think I was worthy of kissing The first kiss was the…

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Another voice.

20 January 2013 |

I don’t often feel someone else grab my insides and says “No, THIS is how you feel.” I am adept at expressing myself. Except lately, that hasn’t been the case. There are many factors, but the three I’ve been able to isolate are fear, anxiety and loneliness. The fear hit me in the face when…

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