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e[Lust] #25
Photo courtesy of Sadie Welcome to e[lust] – Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. And in this edition you can read all about the best sexuality conference…
Read MoreLeather Reign 2010…my keynote speech.
I’ve been invited to do keynotes at Leather / Kink events a handful of times, and as someone who doesn’t really believe in writing speeches, this always throws me into a blind panic. Yes, one of my own making but I personally challenge myself to life up to the challenge of what speeches are, IMO,…
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To the Attendees of IMsL 2011: Thank You For Making A Difference.
This is a quick note to give a heartfelt hearty THANK YOU to the friends family and folks in the audience tonight at International Ms Leather. It was a very scary decision for me to share my story and to ask for others to stand or raise a hand with me as survivors. And the remaining people…
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Consent [Violated].
I have a hard-on for the NCSF. If you don’t know about the national Coalition for Sexual Freedom, educate yourself. If you’re kinky, you REALLY have no business not knowing and supporting them. As the only organization dedicated to helping protect us pervs, an at-risk sexual minority, from prosecution, from discrimination, shit…from OURSELVES? We need…
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Adjusting the idle.
I have a hard time straight-up asking for advice. Partly because I am afraid of people doing that whole “I’m worried about you!†thing when I do. It seems often when I do say “Yeah, I’m struggling with this…can you help me?†a great deal of the time I get a response that pushes me…
Read Moree[lust] #24
Welcome to e[lust] – Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #25? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to…
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IMsL 2010 Travel & Appearances
IMsL 2010 April 15-18, 2010 SF, CA Beyond Leather III April 23-25, 2010 Ft. Lauderdale, FL Northwest Leather Celebration and the Northwest Master/slave Contest April 30th – May 2nd, 2010 San Jose, CA 69 Stories – IMsL Fundraiser May 21-23, 2010 San Francisco, CA Shibaricon May 28-31, 2010 Chicago, IL International Mr. Leather May 28-31,…
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Accepting your submissive self.
Some anonymous person asked me the following on Formspring…and I felt more like talking to them rather than writing about it. Admitting my submissive side is one of the hardest things that’s happened to me. I don’t know what to think or do with myself anymore. I wonder if it’s a result of past sexual…
Read MorePSA: Munches. Are. Low-Key. On. Purpose.
I have now, in the past 3 days, seen 4-5 threads about newcomers complaining about the lack of kink, sex, and fuckery at Munches. If you read the history, you’ll see what happens when Munches deviate from this rule. And some folks in the PNW re-learned this lesson the hard way recently. Dating and “getting…
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Tables briefly turned.
Funny about service: it is one of the more complex and intimate aspects of power exchange and also one of the most basic. I am, and always have been, service oriented. Since childhood I did whatever I could to be entertaining to my parents, to be pleasing to my teachers. I found that necessary and…
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Not so goddamned fast….
There is little within the BDSM and Leather community circles that I take seriously serious, and that is not because I am irreverent about everything. OK well maybe it is, a bit. And maybe it is because fringe communities so often be takin’ so much so got-dammed seriously, I do not see that…
Read MoreThe Scent of a Woman (Or How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love my Snatch)
I swear on Ganesha’s mighty trunk I am really pushing myself on this one. Leave it to The Dominant Guy to bring up and toy with one of my more…sensitive personal areas. This is going to get punny in a second because the area I’m talking about is the DMZ. The punanni, snatch, cunt,…
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No, really. I’m good.
I typically become profoundly uncomfortable when I cannot craft my thoughts or feelings into words. This becomes especially irritating when someone asks me how I am feeling, what I am thinking, and I am nonplussed and vacant, ready with neither quick quip nor reasoned, seasoned response. The capacity to think quickly and clearly is one…
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Woo! I’m in the SEAF!
Thanks to the flagrant awesomeness of photographer Michele Serchuk, this photo will be a part of the SEAF 2011. Graydancer’s pretty lucky, huh…? :-D
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Hey! Fucky VD!
I’m in on a bomb-ass collaboration with WritingHannah. She put together a bunch of YouTube, Blog and Twitter gals getting Medieval on “Love“. Enjoy!! And please take a sec to click below to “Digg” it, kthxbai! :-D
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Right now.
I certainly do not submit explicitly for delicious gourmet chocolates. However, if TheDominantGuy wants to give me a beautiful and delicious confection, I am not going to let that impede my service. He purchased the pink leopard-print chocolate for Mrs. TheDominantGuy. Holy crap seriously, it is really good chocolate. This week was…is…has…
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When it is simple.
I didn’t break down crying. There were no other witnesses. I felt no cosmic upheaval. It was the middle of the afternoon in the middle of the country and I was in the middle of his dining room, in the middle of errands. We had been taking, since the day before, about expectations. He had…
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No Wrong Answers.
It is important for me to “get it right†when I’m explaining myself. Interestingly, I do this very well with little effort so when I feel like I’m missing the mark I have an initial “nose out of joint†moment until I remember “If they aren’t getting you, re-direct. It will come.†This…
Read MoreLook, Ma, I’m in the Washington Post!
…and I WILL be clipping and sending this to Mom :-D Gay leather fetishists gather to celebrate skins and substance By Monica Hesse Washington Post Staff Writer Sunday, January 16, 2011; 7:30 PM Saturday night in Las Vegas was the 90th annual Miss America. The winner was a sweet 17-year-old blonde from Nebraska. Sunday afternoon…
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e[lust] #22
Welcome to e[lust] – Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #23? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS…
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Because I forget sometimes? Thank you.
I am moved today to give thanks. Thank you to the people who support me, who have the bravery to be my friends. Thank you to the people who listen to me, and thank you to the people who offer their homes, their support, and their help. Thank you to the people who, by their…
Read MoreSometimes, it is the simple things.
Being back in the US is pretty dang lovely, too. My cell phone works here and I can mainline news, info and bullshit with ease. 6+ weeks is a long damned time. Hitting the ground in Washington DC, having a good old fashioned taco plate with Spanish rice that reminds you of the rice your…
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Making me cry.
No one will be surprised to read I’m a pretty emotionally dynamic person. Always have been. Things impact my insides, sometimes in ways that taste strange even to me. Emotions, I know, are only as crucial as one makes them. It can be tough for me on some days to let go of emotions that…
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