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WTF Wednesday: what’s that about Black women, dude?

19 November 2008 |

I absolutely cannot kill my internal eternal optimist. Many have, inadvertently, tried to quell Little Mo’s bright-eyed bushy-tailed wellspring of hopeless romanticism. “You never know!” she’ll pipe up in hopeful, dulcet tones “Stranger things have happened! Sometimes people find wonderful folks online! Give it a try Mo!” SO, I open my in-box on yet another…

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“Topping from the Bottom”: what it is NOT.

18 November 2008 |

I cringe and bristle when I hear the phrase “topping from the bottom” It is often used as a pejorative within the Leather and BDSM community to denote one who is in the position of receiving sensation (the bottom) directing or “topping” from what “should be” a subordinate place. The problem I have is this: the…

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Fucking Monsters.

17 November 2008 |

Fucking Twitter. A series of Tweets with PantheraPardus bounced me out of bed so that I could try to explain to myself why fucked up people turn me on.   In 1992 I was living in LA and had gone, with a few girlfriends, to see the new Tarantino flick. I didn’t know anything about it, but…

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Sugasm time!

16 November 2008 | Comments Off on Sugasm time!

Hot Sexytime from the Hot sexyblog people. Word. This Week’s Picks Sugarbutch Star: Maze – The Girl in the Red Dress “She’s the kind of girl who brings out the worst in me.” treat or … fuck “He looked like I had just given him a car for Christmas and he gently took my hand…

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“Top’s Disease”: The pathology of arrogance, or kinda hot?

15 November 2008 |

If you are a self-identified kinky person, you may have heard of “Top’s Disease”: the dominant who shows off in scenes, is riddled with self-importance bordering on clinical monomania may fall into the category of victim of  “Top’s Disease.” This is the idea that a dominant or top has a terminal kink-centric narcissism. Believing their…

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HNT: Not Bad…just drawn that way.

13 November 2008 |
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Under 500: “Hush, babygirl.”

12 November 2008 | Comments Off on Under 500: “Hush, babygirl.”

His chin tilts and his eyes drift in a particular way when he isn’t paying attention to what I have to say anymore. I’m irritated but the lazy meandering of his gaze is deceptive. I know better than to think he isn’t paying attention. He is. He is, even as I earnestly try to explain…

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Captured at Folsom.

09 November 2008 |

The Folsom Street fair rules. I have attended annually since 1997. This year, I stopped at the midpoint of the fair by a large gray cube constructed of draped fabric. I was bemused by the fact it was covered with poster-sized portraits of people in Fetish garb and assorted drag. I was gestured over by…

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HNT Flips its wig!

06 November 2008 |
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WTF Wednesday: Black girl. Red State.

05 November 2008 |

The folks of the Arizona Power Exchange group invited me, a long while back, to teach a class for them. That class is this weekend. Please keep in mind, I am used to controversy. I am, after all, one of the very VERY few people in the BDSM / Leather Community openly discussing and teaching…

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Yes we can, Sir!

04 November 2008 |
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Top the vote.

04 November 2008 |

Today we all get to be the Dominants of Democracy. Have you taken your swipe at the booty of America today? Well, get cracking, people! This is a Big One. Do it, and do it right. And hey, to my peeps in The NYC, and y’all keepin’ it real in Seattle: Get your groove on…

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“What the hell do bottoms know about rope bondage?”

03 November 2008 |

I have been invited to be a speaker at a kink event. This is really, really WIN, and seems to be happening more frequently, which is SUPER cool. This one is in Colorado. It is called Denver Bound. It is a smaller event, and they have an interesting setup. They have a few people come…

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Yes, I CAN shut up. I simply choose not to.

01 November 2008 |

I was reminded of an old lover today. A memory as convoluted, bittersweet and difficult as any in my life to date. Then the larger question of BDSM reportage came to mind. Usually, one does ask the person about whom you are writing if they are OK with you writing about them. Usually, they are…

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Fuck Yeah It’s Friday!

31 October 2008 |

The good folks at XCRITIC have a vision. That vision is awesome pr0n for your wanking enjoyment with reviews by People Who Love The Porn. Some of those people are industry insiders. One of of those people is…ME! I am thrilled to announce that I am the newest contributor to the XCritic Review Team. *confetti*…

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SUGASM! (and a wee little Mogasm!)

31 October 2008 |

OH MY GOD!! I got voted into Sugasm, y’all!! *squee* I could hardly wait but I am trying to be all disciplined and shit about posting. SO, yay! Yay all Sugasm participants, and thanks for giving the nod to my “Tale from the vault.” Sugasm #151 October 29th, 2008 by Vixen | Last modified: October…

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HNT – Bluesin’ with Billie

30 October 2008 |

I decided to go with a totally spur-of-the-moment shot for my second offering. This truly was a WTF Wednesday and I thought what better way to give a hopeful feeling to a brand-spanking new day than with a self-portrait & some panthera pardus-y perkiness? My friend Billie snuck in tonight. I think I will dial…

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WTF Wednesday: Did you READ my profile?

29 October 2008 |

I know it is tough. When you are surfing the interwebs to look for love, perhaps you lack the time to read every line of every profile of every woman into whom you want to stick your penis. But please. My gods. Some of the responses I get to my profile. This gem today in…

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FUCKED (Under 500)

28 October 2008 |

Trying out this new thing, seeing if I can pull off telling an (in)decent fucktale in under 500 words. Whaddya think? “Don’t move. Don’t fucking move. if you move and you make me come right now I swear to god you’ll make me very angry and I don’t think you want that.” I could hardly…

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SEVEN Deadly Facts / SEVEN Deadly BLOGS (I Been Tagged, Yo!)

27 October 2008 |

So there is this fucking meme of tagging people which I hate but also love. That seems to be today’s theme. So, thanks to the sultry sexy mama over at Baser Instincts, here are my SEVEN DEADLY FACTS. I am sure this is stuff about which no-one will give a flying fuck. 1) I cannot cross…

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Some days I hate what I need.

27 October 2008 |

My subconscious Sub-Etha Sens-O-Matic was thrumming with memory and pulsing with perversion everywhere for me this weekend. I had a lovely brunch with a dear friend on Sunday. He is, among many things, a sadist and of British extraction. These things are, in my book, two of the the very Pillars of Win. Being extremely well-hung…

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This mitigates my guilt.

25 October 2008 |

I often felt kinda guilty about the raw nasty sex I used to foist upon my dolls as a kid. Did you know that the original Star Trek play-set was smartly fitted with a “working transporter” had the capacity for 2 figures if you 69ed them? No, no you didn’t! Yeah, Barbie got it from…

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You’ve Tried The Rest, Now Try The BEST!

24 October 2008 |

The Best Sex bloggers, that is! *squee* I have been invited by Catalina Ramirez to become a contributor to bestsexbloggers.com SO FUCKING STOKED!!!! Huge fat thanks to Zille and  to Desiree for recommending my blog!! And a shout out to…well… whomever the other people were who brought me to her attention! *dancing*  Those of you surfing over from…

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The Power Exchange: A Memory.

24 October 2008 |

It looks as though one of San Francisco’s last public pansexual Sex Club and BDSM playspaces,The Power Exchange, is at risk. The owner of the building is selling, and the future of the place is uncertain. On those nights where the filthynastypiglut in you wants to be ogled and leered at and objectified by complete…

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HNT! (One more cherry, popped.)

23 October 2008 |

This is my inaugural HNT participatory toodleoo, and so, um yeah. Boob.

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