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WTF Wednesday: Hey pornographers: enough with the spitting already.
I can’t pop in a pr0n DVD or idly browse a website without a secret lurking terror.  I don’t know if you have noticed this, but I sure have.  Spitting.   Spitting EVERYWHERE.   IN the face, ON the schvantz, UP the keister, all over the damned place.   What is a…
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For my FetLife Friend.
So may times over the years I see submissives fall “prey” to “predators” or fall  “victim” of a bad dom or exploitative wolf in leather clothing.  I recently made the online acquaintance of a woman who was going from an online to a real-time dominant / submissive (d/s) relationship.  The fairytale for which…
Read MoreCongratulations, Graduates of Journeyman III Academy!
A hearty Huzzah!!! To those graduating today from the Journeyman III Academy. Your commitment and dedication is an inspiration to those in the Leather Lifestyle who strive to better themselves and better serve. I am proud to call many of you friends and a few of you Family. There are many paths to choose when…
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Just another day in Pervidice.
Though I rarely take things for granted, I do occasionally fail to step back and see the larger surreal picture. Seurat-a-tat-tat when I DO step back I inhale the myriad blots and splotches that resolve into a story told in moments. Recovering from the abrupt rape of a badly decomposed molar was complicated by goddess-awful…
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WTF Wednesday: Rope Bondage
There are 47 reasons, on any given day, why kinky stuff gets my jeebies heebied. One of the things I can enjoy, regardless of my emotional connection to my play partner, is rope bondage. There are many aspects of kink that are intensely personal for me, things that get right into my head and places…
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“The Prize for the LAMEST Booty Call I have endured goes to….” (Yes, that IS my famous rant. Srsly.)
best of craigslist > SF bay area > The Prize for the LAMEST Booty Call I have endured goes to…. Originally Posted: Thu, 6 May 13:39 PDT Date: 2004-05-06, 1:39PM PDT I suppose it is my fault for agreeing to an early morning hook-up. You see, I am not, NOT, a morning person. When I…
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GILFs
I have decided that Christianity has the unsexiest god fucking IMAGINABLE. Seriously. Even his son isn’t all that. Sure, the walking on water thing is kind of cool, it would probably have gotten the girls kinda hot back in Galilee and all. OK, Goth chicks could SO be into Jesus what with the stigmata and…
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(Mind)Fucking it up. Again.
 I just spoke with Robin, the delightful Programming Director of The Exiles. I’m stoked to have been invited back to present a class for them!  Especially after The Incident at the last class.  Oy vey ish meir.   Um, anyway, yeah!   This is going to be the “Taboos: Playing…
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Mocking Monogamy (or, “Mo’s Emo Munch 2.0”)
I censored myself in my last post. That is because I had not worked through what I was feeling and I am protective of my emotional ebb and flow these days. As I arrived home tonight, something that happened earlier this afternoon was still tugging at the hem of my heart. So, I’ll talk about…
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Mo’s Emo Munch.
Since the first Munch was held in 1992 in the South Bay, perverts have been getting together casually over coffee tea and food to shoot the shit and try to hook up. I attended a Munch today that had me in a bit of a contemplative mood. A friend was exchanging messages with their new…
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The Knife Edge of Consent. {Not for the PC or faint of heart.}
 [disclaimer] This is a description of an impromptu scene I experienced several years ago. I post it since I had a discussion recently about scenes that rumba on the edge of non-consensual assaulted nutjob time. While there is implicit consent overall, the act described herein is not something I condone for everyone, and Might Be…
Read MoreFetLife: FTMFW! Booya!
I will blatantly pimp today. I have been a pervert for a long time.  My High School boyfriend and I liberally applied handcuffs and hogties in the bedroom. Back then, it was pilfered clothesline from his Mom’s laundry supplies. That very first relationship was, for a while, a triad. Yeah, I had it goin’ on,…
Read More“LEAVE….THE….VANILLAS…..ALONE!!!!!”
I fucking love vanilla ice cream. It is my favorite flavor. And by ice cream I mean frozen yogurt as I am violently lactose intolerant. I love frozen vanilla yogurt. There. I’ve said it! Vanilla pudding, vanilla cake….when I was a kid, I used to love adding a capfull of vanilla flavoring to my milk.…
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FLASHBACK: Bay Area Pervs in the News.
Chains and whips and leather – oh my! Berkeley Bondage, Discipline and Sadomasochism enthusiasts explore how pain and pleasure fuse together to make sex play hurt so good. Bondage Fans Bond in Berkeley By Erin Gallagher Monday, November 27, 2000 | Local professors, writers, lawyers and doctors by day abandon suits and scrubs for leather…
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teapot headtrip.
Sometimes, people who are involved in kink feel compelled try to explain to non-kink identified people why we do this kinky shit at all. Often, pervs will talk about their kink as though only other pervs do what we do, and no non kinky human can ever understand the “Depth” of service. The thing about…
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writhe a while in my ropes.
I recently read about a dominant who switches being tut-tutted by submissives who insist that they are not a “Real Dominant.” *shudder* 34 things wrong with that, but I will only address one. I also have heard dominants assert that they refuse to bottom. Should someone who is not self-identified as a top or dominant…
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Fuckin’ Fundie Perverts.
I have observed, over the years, a passive-aggressive tendency among perverts to denigrate one another’s choices within the Leather Lifestyle. For me the MOST insidious behaviour is the posturing of some people who self-identify as slaves. They are the ones most often referring to themselves with the dubious title “True” slaves, and farting in the…
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Don’t talk to me ’bout “True” if you ain’t Spandau Ballet.
Oh how I bristle when people fling their titles, judgments and assessments all over the place like jizz from the willy of an epileptic kangaroo. I cannot count the times when some dumbass has spouted “Well, if you were a TRUE submissive, you would submit naturally and without hesitation!” or the equally shitastic “TRUE Masters…
Read MoreYouTube’s Gordian “Not.”
What is this clusterfuck?!? You can post video of children swearing profanely, underage kids pelvic grinding, any animal you can misspell having carnal pleasures, all manner of deadly real-time snuff clips, but a couple of guys tying knots is pulled. Nice. Nice work. Don’t get me wrong. I love vids of little kids saying “Fuck”…
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Google FTMFW.
 Our position on California’s No on 8 campaign 9/26/2008 03:23:00 PM As an Internet company, Google is an active participant in policy debates surrounding information access, technology and energy. Because our company has a great diversity of people and opinions — Democrats and Republicans, conservatives and liberals, all religions and no religion, straight and…
Read MoreI obey hot porn stars.
So when I burble on Twitter somethin’ ’bout my crazy idea that it would be cool to run for a Leather Title, and Jiz Lee is all “Do it!” I think I have to, y’all. I mean, when a queer genderqueer gender-varient trans fag androgynous erotic model pornstar dykestar sex worker artist activist instigator sweetheart…
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Baseline.
I often see people holding forth regarding “kink orientations” in an effort to understand others. People often pose questions like: “What is up with these people who want to be told what to do?” “If I do not want to be told what to do, but I enjoy pain, am I not submissive?” “What if…
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White people make better canvasses?
I had an idea about an on-your-feet exercise to conduct in today’s class on “Race Play”. Though it relies on a certain percentage of PoC being in the room. I can’t ever rely on that at the average Leather event, so we’ll see. Yesterday I was at a class that dealt with how one might…
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