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Plagiarize this.
I got a notification today on several responses to a post I’d written a little while ago. You can see it here. I wasn’t surprised” sometimes people dig though to older stuff. I WAS surprised when I pulled up my @ page and saw that someone was asking me if I’d posted someone else’s work. Said she’s…
Read Moree[Lust] #35
Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #36? Start with the newly updated rules, come back May…
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A TREMENDOUS Honor!
It is not uncommon for people to talk about how they think titles, awards and such fripperies are stupid. I’ve seen so many people write about how titles are redundant, slam the idea of people gathering to back-slap and self-congratulate with meaningless awards, even do the disingenuous thing of demurring that they are not worthy…
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Seeing Bubbles.
Those of you who know about me at all know I’m an alcoholic. I’ve been sober since March 14th, 2007 and just celebrated my 5th Soberversary. A big part of my sobriety revolved around my having a very serious series of…encounters / hallucinations / spirit journeys while I was detoxing.  And the first party involved in this excitement was a hyena…
Read MoreNew on SexIs Magazine…suckin’ it.
“ I really like oral sex. And by “really like†I mean “am the hugest fan OMFG eat me all night long, baby!†When I was a teen and first began me explorations with my first boyfriend, I was rather spoiled. It took me about a decade to realize HOW spoiled. My first boyfriend thought eating…
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How NOT to hit on kinky POC.
I put up a video in response to a bunch of POC describing some flagrant fooliganism. I didn’t think this shit had to be said but clearly I’m just sheltered and shit. And next time some clueless wonder writes to you talking about how much they wanna own a hot piece of black ass, flame…
Read MoreTONIGHT! Midnight ~ 2AM EDT! Sex, Love & HipHop with Sinnamon Love!
This evening…or rather, early in the morning for you ast Coast peeps…I’ll be joining the amazing Sinnamon Love on her brand new show, Sex, Love & Hip-Hop! Also appearing are Lola Bastinado and Beauty Foster and it looks like one of the people who had a major impact on my coming out kinky, Dr. Gloria Brame, may…
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PSA: How NOT to hit on kinky Black people.
I put up a video in response to a bunch of POC describing some flagrant fooliganism. I didn’t think this shit had to be said but clearly I’m just sheltered and shit. And next time some clueless wonder writes to you talking about how much they wanna own a hot piece of black ass, flame…
Read MoreOn “closure…”
I’m pondering a misconception I’m releasing around what it means to have “closure.” I’ve been struggling mightily with what felt like a really crippling blow to my self-esteem. I kept performing autopsies on my relationship with The Dominant Guy to try to figure out what more I could have done to make it…
Read MoreATTENTION BOSTON! Special Class for Submissives & Slaves Monday March 26th, 2012
In addition to participating in Harvard’s Inaugural Sex Week, I’m also speaking for NELA! NELA Presents – Mollena Williams – Self-ish Submission: Why your Needs should be Nourished. ~for Submissives & Slaves (and switches in s-mode) ONLY. Date & Time:in 16 days Monday, March 26, 2012 · 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM Location: Unity Church of Somerville 6…
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Milestone ahead.
Since March 13th 2007 I have been on a pretty amazing journey. It started with me finally saying aloud “I’m an alcoholic. And I need help, because I don’t want to die.” I’ve been sober since March 14th. That’s also Pi Day. And “Steak & A Blowjob Day,†if you celebrate such things ;-) HTTP://COUNTINGDOWNTO.COM…
Read MoreSometimes? The “right thing” sucks.
I was struggling, night before last, with a re-hash of the shit that’s been sulking under my bed for a couple of months now. Shit, let’s be honest…my personal stuff isn’t really skulking. It stalks and lurks and ambushes me sometimes. It is tough for me to reconcile all of the changes…
Read MoreI’m in the top three for e[Lust] #33
My post on my HSV I & HSV II diagnosis made the top three. I am very grateful to be able to speak out  about sexual health and personal advocacy. Welcome to e[lust], the sex blog round-up- The best posts from the hottest and smartest sex bloggers all in one place! This edition highlights topics…
Read MoreI got your Valentine BS right here…
VD. Blah blah, buckets of haterade. I AM bitter and single on VD. Again. I have spent more of them single than not. And the ones where I WAS partnered, the pressure made ’em miserable. My friend, the awesome Laura Antoniou, has a rather compelling essay on why she’s not a fan… check it out here. I was…
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Beautiful obstacles.
Sometimes it is very easy for me to share my story. I run to the keyboard and pour out an idea that has sprung to mind, or eagerly type out the results of some brainhamster action. And other times, I agonize over every word, humming “Oh Lord, please don’t let me be misunderstood…â€Â tersely under my breath…
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“Living Leather, Living Sober.” Panel discussion @ SF Citadel
Living Leather, Living Sober “ A Panel Discussion†I’m Going!maybe going | not going Date & Time:in 16 days Tuesday, February 21, 2012 · 8:00 PM –10:00 PM Location: SF Citadel 363 6th Street, San Francisco, CA   @ map Cost: $20 at door Dress code: Whatever Makes You Happy Description: It is a well known fact that many of people…
Read MoreUpcoming Gigs & Schtuff!
Best to keep busy when things get wonky, right? I have a few gigs in the pipeline for peeps in the North East or SF, so check ’em out! Yale Sex week! I’m performing with Bawdy Storytelling in the opening extravaganza for Yale Sex Week Friday February 3rd, 9:00 PM ~ 12:00AM Sudler Hall, Yale…
Read MoreI’m the 48%.
I’ve been going to see healthcare professionals about my sexual health since 1985. I was sixteen, and my boyfriend and I were fucking one another’s brains out with predictable results. I’d a scorching UTI, and Planned Parenthood was most accommodating. Since then, I’ve been quite attentive of my sexual health. Regular pelvics, started up my…
Read MoreWhat I’m not saying.
The past month or so has been difficult in ways I’ve not seen before, and to a degree I’ve not previously experienced. I’m used to doing my processing out loud, and it has helped me immensely. I thrive on tossing up my inner workings, letting them come to light, welcoming others to join the…
Read MoreNew on SexIs Magazine: “Got Rope?”
From my latest column on SexIs Magazine: My first dominant was really into a style of bondage commonly referred to as kinbaku, or shibari in the USA. It’s a lot of rope, usually jute or hemp, and sometimes it is used as a way to suspend folks off of the ground, in defiance of…
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SPPP Sneek Peek!
The lovely and talented Shilo McCabe, ably assisted by the badass Airial Clark, accosted me violently in an alley in San Francisco this summer, threatened me with …um…knifes and…stuff…and insisted that I pose for Shilo’s Sex Positive Photo Project. NOTE: Most of the previous sentence isn’t true. What IS true is that I DID pose for the…
Read MoreHelp me get Bawdy!
UPDATE!! It is looking really good for my chances to go back to SF for the Bawdy Fifth Anniversary! Which is AWESOME! But I need your help! While I wish I could peel off the ducats and be a carefree jetsetter, I’m actually not all that financially fabulous! If you’d like to see me…
Read Moree[Lust] #32
Photo courtesy of Lady Grinning Soul Welcome to e[lust], the sex blog round-up- The best posts from the hottest and smartest sex bloggers all in one place! This edition highlights topics such as libido, fake orgasms, teenage lust, voyeurism, BDSM consent and so much more. Want to be included in e[lust] #33? Start with the…
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Ẹrú.
I think about tattoos for at least a year before getting them. I’ve wanted an affirmation of my identity as a slave for some time now. But its me, so I gotta be different. I’ve seen people with BDSM logos, with their Slave Registry numbers, with their owner’s name, with various Japanese and Chinese characters…
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