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New on Sexis Magazine: “See Mom, It’s Like This…”
I was inspired to write a piece about coming out to my Mom about being kinky. I was inspired by a moment of very deep gratitude when i saw a friend talking about how unaccepting her Mother had been about her sexuality. So fucking Uncool. I’m doubly proud that, when I called Mom to ask…
Read More1/20/12: LSM Class “Negotiation for the Hopelessly Shy & Terribly Awkward”
Lesbian Sex Mafia presents Negotiation for the Hopelessly Shy and Terribly Awkward with Mollena Williams Negotiation of scenes can be tough on people who are adept at bargaining, expressing their needs, wants, and desires. so how is this gauntlet to be run by those of us perverts who are super shy or kind of…
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And now, a word from “The Man.”
I’m deeply honored and pleased (and yeah, a little turned on) to re-post, with permission, a really remarkable essay on race play. Shock #1, it isn’t by me. Less shocking, it is about me, kinda. Shockingest of all? It is an essay written from  the top’s experience in doing race play.  My…
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And Now a Word From “The Man.”
I’m deeply honored and pleased (and yeah, a little turned on) to re-post, with permission, a really remarkable essay on race play. Shock #1, it isn’t by me. Less shocking, it is about me, kinda. Shockingest of all? It is an essay written from  the top’s experience in doing race play.  My…
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We are Family.
I’ve been “out” as someone a bit bent pretty much since I realized it was a reality for me. My friends all had similar reactions: eye-rolling and “Yeah…and?” Â The only raised eyebrows I ever got were in reaction to my follow-up revelation that I was submissive. Everyone assumed I would be the one throwing…
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Unnatural submission.
When I first became involved in the kink community, I ran into plenty of people who held themselves to a very high standard. Of course, being an overachiever, I did as well. And then I started running into people who branded themselves as “naturals.” These rarefied few were willing to share about how dominance…
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“The Wiz” and me.
A little off topic but I was curled up while petsetting today and caught part of “The Wiz” as it was being shown on some cable station or other. Â I smiled, because I have rather particular memories around the movie…and I was wistful for a moment, because most of the stars of that movie are…
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BOOM goes the dynamite! NEW Erotic Awakenings AND New SexIs!
It is a busy end to a busy year! My first podcast for Erotic Awakening has hit the ground running! Sit back, relax, take your socks off, get naked, grab a snack and some lotion and ….er….or just listen to my first installment of The Negress Natters on EA! Check out…
Read MoreBroken and grateful.
I have no fucking idea what the hell I’m doing…it seems all I can do to remember to breathe. Wonderful. You’ve finally understood what has always been true. The breath you are taking right now is all you really ever have. I’ve been working hard on meditating, and have been less than…
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Who are you to change us?
 So LilyLoyd posted a response (On FetLife) to my recent post about training. (The same post is here on this blog) As I mentioned in that post, I have had many hours of brainhamster energy spent running around about training in the BDSM and Leather context. What it means, how it is done, what the purpose is, why…
Read MoreA crack in the shell, from “SlaveCraft”
Every once in a while…and believe me, it is rare…I find someone who is able to better express something with which I’ve struggled to find words. Guy Baldwin is certainly someone I consider influential in my thinking when I was first studying and considering accepting my identity as a slave. I’ve been sitting with…
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From FL: 10 Second Petty Pet Peeve Rantlet.
10 Second Petty Pet Peeve Rantlet. Note | 42 Comments · 3 Love It | 2 days ago Yeah I know its psycho… HOWEVER! <rantlet> Because I make a point of not calling other people’s dominants / masters “Sir”/”Ma’am” in that formal subbly way? When other people do that with…um…with certain people… it makes me want to hold them…
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The Dominant Guy & flashlights & labels.
Today @TheDominantGuy and I had some time to have a phone date. Which I love so very much.  There are still Big Ass Things on the table to discuss and that might have gone down…but the second stage of emotional heavy-lifting didn’t happen. We got to catch up on other stuff. And actually just talk,…
Read MoreChicago Bound!
Well, hopefully. I AM going to Chicago. The binding part…well. I have a few leads on friends who might be wiling to tie my up for a bit! “Why Play on the Edge?” with Mollena Williams Sat., December 10, 2011
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This week on SexIs Magazine: “7 Random Suggestions for Dominant Types!”
This week’s SexIs Magazine column is one where I offer some advice to one of the less-likely-to-be-advised demographic in the kink junglelands: Teh Twue Dominates. Well, and the regular dominants, masters, owners and tops, too. Seven (random) Suggestions for Dominant Types Hubris, you say, for me, a mere trembling flower of submission to dare…
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Some late-evening disjointed ramblings & bullshit, really.
I am just rambling a bit…I have a great deal on my heart and on my mind but the process is still in process and lots of it really is a bit more personal than can be dissected in the public forum of blogs and such. But I have to write something, and I’m…
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TONIGHT! Red Umbrella Diaries!
Stoked to hit the ground running after my repatriation! Back in the motherland with a tale of near-miss debauchery, emesis, and accidental sex-work…yep, I have magical powers.
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When heartache brings happiness? That’s Hot.
Hello! My name is Mollena and I’m an Alcoholic Submissive Masochist Slave Masochist Ponygirl Emotional masochist Yeah all of those are labels I use to create space where I can be me safely. But that last one…not so easy to embrace. I’ve waded through accepting a lot of shit I thought I’d never be…
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“Prime Directive” on SexIs!
Woo hoo! My latest offering on SexIs Magazine is up! “It might seem terribly romantic to sacrifice yourself, your time, your body, in service to another. It is very fulfilling, for many people, to push themselves in their service. Those who eroticize the exchange of power often thrive in a situation where they can sometimes…
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Photo by Shilo, and Happy Hump Day :-)
So Shilo McCabe, she of the bad-ass hanky code flowers,  the Sex Positive Photo Project and general awesomeness, came and hung out with me, brought along the radtastic  Airial and by my sista Sylvia. Much awesome ensued. And we took some pictures, so here’s one… Here’s hoping you have a Happy Hump Day! …
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Jai! Ganesha is here in inky glory!
Well, it’s a camera-phone pic and Oh boy it still stings but many, many thanks to my brother-in-spirit Gauge, who runs Bulldog Tattoo. He brought my sweet Lord to rest on my skin…dancing on my left thigh.
Read MoreI’m rarely a “top” but I’m in the top 100!
I’m chuffed to have received recognition for my little blog! Thanks to Rori for compiling another year’s worth of sex bloggery goodness! Here’s the Top 100 Sex Bloggers according to the readers of the sexiest blogs in the internets! Guy New York (@quickiesnewyork) and The Dirty Gentleman from Quickies in New York Charlotte Times…
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Half-Nekkid with a Fully Nekkid Head!
Happy HNT! I’m in the last week of performing in a play here in San Francisco, and though I’ve sacrificed a great deal for theater in my lifetime, this was the first time I went so far as to shave and Nair my noggin.
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Breaking in the Slave.
I hadn’t cried like that in a long, long time. Crying is something I usually do for very short bursts, then it ebbs. Maybe a minute? Tops. And then I have done what I needed to do and can either sit with the emotion or start to recover from whatever triggered the collapse. But this…
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quiet
I’m no longer surprised that I have this reflexive compulsion to obey The Dominant Guy. That was a given since we first met. What does continue to surprise me is the depth of how far that compulsion goes, and how I sincerely obey before I have even processed what he wants. Submitting when you are…
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